Rituals in discipline can be effective and often comforting. Rituals help a girl understand what is expected out of her, and what she can expect. Often if she knows she’s going to be spanked, she may want to obey but without a set rules or rituals guiding her she may be lost, become frustrated, I make the experience much more difficult than need be. When my father spanked me as a kid I also had a ritual then, but was not really aware of it. I would be sent to my room to put on my pajama bottoms and sit quietly at the end of my bed waiting until my father came to administer the paddling. I knew when I was told to go to my room exactly what I was to do, and what I was to expect. The act of preparing myself caused the butterflies to race in my tummy.
Now in a domestic discipline partnership the same rituals can be very beneficial. Having her prepare herself for punishment also can give you time to relax and calm yourself. Maybe having her prepare a bed with pillows, putting on a special outfit that has been designated for spanking, having her sit in a special chair or place before or after spanking is given, retrieving and placing the spanking implement in an appropriate, place or some action that is repetitive. Once you have established a ritual it is only effective if it is consistently done every time exactly the same way. If you have any rituals that you use now share them with me I would like to know.